Natural Affinity
This affinity is strange. I can often sense it very strongly just by being in somebody’s presence, even if no words are spoken. I have sensed this affinity with people with whom I did not even share a common spoken language. Mutual affinity is somehow conveyed by a person’s atmosphere or aura. A pair of friends can just enjoy being together without having to say anything. This mutual affinity can even be picked up remotely. People have sensed a deep affinity with me just by browsing my web site from which we have then gone on to develop an intense friendship by email without ever meeting at all. However, a friendship never feels quite consummated without at least one face to face meeting.
What creates this affinity that provides the channel through which two people may become friends? Firstly they must each have the kind of personality that harmonises with the other. People of the same gender view the world in the same gender-specific way. I think therefore that same-gender friends need to have similar personalities - personalities with considerable overlap. Men and women, on the other hand, view the world in slightly different gender-specific ways that are mutually complementary. For male-female friendships, therefore, I think it is far better for the male and female to have complementary personalities.
