The precarious balance between your public life and your private life is going to be a bit of a sticky one to walk right now — so feel free to rely on the guidance of folks who have already been through what you are going through right now. Let go of all the efforts you are making to guide your path so narrowly, and turn away from the expectations you fear other people have for you. You are responsible for what happens today, but only to a point.
It’s all about the view from the rooftops today — and the whispered conversations that you hear through the walls. Privileged information is the information you should try to seek out right now. You definitely should not go out of your way to invade anyone’s privacy, but keep your wits about you — and your information detector set to high. If you uncover someone’s secrets today, keep them to yourself until you know what you should do with them.
Your lifestyle could be due for some more restraint right now … both the time and the money you have been spending so freely are in danger of running out, so you the time has arrived for some strict conservation. You can make a really fun game out of this situation, though — challenge yourself to see how little money you can spend in a day and how quickly you can run through your errands. You just may surprise yourself.
There is a teaching aspect to the advice you dole out to friends today — passing on your hard-learned information is something you take seriously, and rightfully so. Is the idea of being a teacher so far-fetched? Not really — in some ways, you were born to be one. You have a natural patience, a gift for compassion and a huge ability to remember what you have learned yourself. You will find it rewarding to connect with people today and give a little bit of yourself.
Do not push any of your relationships — especially the romantic ones — past their natural dynamic right now. As much as you might be itching for a major change, you cannot force things to go in a certain direction … if it is meant to happen, it is meant to happen at a certain time. And that time is not today. So right now, just let things take their course. If you do, you will learn an invaluable lesson about patience and giving up some control
Love is the driving force that creates and sustains friendship. The kind of love friends have for each other is the desire to know, serve and share. It is the antithesis of lust - the desire to acquire, possess and control. It is what makes one want to connect with another human consciousness - intellectually, emotionally and physically.
Unspoken doubts and suspicions are barriers that limit the possible depth to which a friendship can progress. Love empowers friends to say how they feel about each other without inhibition or fear of hurting each other’s feelings. It thereby allows them to resolve their doubts and suspicions about each other, thus removing the barriers and opening the way to an ever deeper friendship.
Because friends love each other, one never attempts to force, coerce or control the other to change for the better. One friend only informs the other of the way he or she feels. Love will motivate the informed friend to change him or herself for the better. Because friends love each other, they will never use each other as a means to an end - as a human resource to be used and abused for self gain. A friend - as a precious sentient consciousness - is an end in him or herself. That end is the joy of sharing experiences and reciprocal love
Friendship is a partial sharing of minds. The extent of that sharing depends on the depth to which the friendship goes. Each of a pair of friends constructs a mental model of the other in his or her mind. This model has both intellectual and emotional elements. The process of building and maintaining this model requires an openness of communication in which each friend provides the other with a progressive revelation - an honest inner exposure - of him or herself.
Honest exposure of the inner self to another is not easy. Becoming friends from first meeting to bosom pals requires a progressive growth of mutual trust. But you shouldn’t be naive. Don’t expose your inner being too much too quickly. Like a rock climber, gradually reach out a little further, but only as far as you can afford to fall. At each successful stage, you each hammer in a piton. Then you each risk a further outreach towards the other from your respective points of established trust. Repeat this process until you eventually achieve total mutual trust.
If you fall into quicksand at any stage, grab your rope and haul yourself back to the previous piton (established level of trust). Take this as the appropriate depth for that particular friendship at that particular time. The depth, degree or level of intimacy in friendship is a continuous scale. You have to find the point on that scale that is right for each friendship.
Not all value-sets are conducive to friendship. The all-pervading spirit of competition and greed in current Western society reflects an underlying set of values that is not to my mind conducive to friendship. This value-set is powered by the lust for self-gain at the expense of others. It is the desire to take. It generates relationships in which one possesses the other in some way. One becomes a slave of self-imposed obligation trapped by the other’s crushing emotional dependence upon them.
Friends give and receive in a way that enhances the ability of each to develop freely as he or she wishes. Friendship has no regard for wealth or status. There can be no hierarchy of friends. Friendship can exist only between two who regard each other as equal peers and who share a mutually agreed part of their experiences, knowledge, wisdom and pleasures.
This affinity is strange. I can often sense it very strongly just by being in somebody’s presence, even if no words are spoken. I have sensed this affinity with people with whom I did not even share a common spoken language. Mutual affinity is somehow conveyed by a person’s atmosphere or aura. A pair of friends can just enjoy being together without having to say anything. This mutual affinity can even be picked up remotely. People have sensed a deep affinity with me just by browsing my web site from which we have then gone on to develop an intense friendship by email without ever meeting at all. However, a friendship never feels quite consummated without at least one face to face meeting.
What creates this affinity that provides the channel through which two people may become friends? Firstly they must each have the kind of personality that harmonises with the other. People of the same gender view the world in the same gender-specific way. I think therefore that same-gender friends need to have similar personalities - personalities with considerable overlap. Men and women, on the other hand, view the world in slightly different gender-specific ways that are mutually complementary. For male-female friendships, therefore, I think it is far better for the male and female to have complementary personalities.
I tried my best to conquer, I tried my best to win
I thought my mind was powerful, seems its just oblivion
I’m sorry for the burdens I have laid on you
I tried my best to see that our love would be true
I had my friends and loved ones once upon a time
I risked my own sweet life just so you’d be mine
I have my reasons for being with you
I wish I could explain it, I’ll try to prove it soon
I used to be so mighty, I used to be so great
but of course when you came around I lost my
ruling place. You will not admit it, as you shut me
up, You are my true copy such mimicking luck
The stars had crossed our paths yours upon mine
or perhaps it was something greater, you’ll know
in your own time. And as I lie here weakened by
your words the Almighty in me will repeat itself
before I turn into one of your works, You always
tell me you’re the best as you brag and gloat
I see my strength being drained, as a zombie I
will mope. Like for everyone else, I am your true
source, You rely on me, although I’m dumb and weak
I shall show you someday, I will make you see. And
when I do recover, and be the great one I truly am
I will love you forever and ever till the end.
